One of my absolute favorite questions is, “So……you shoot porn?”
No. No, I do not. I do shoot sexy photos, but there is SO MUCH meaning and emotion behind them. My clients come to my studio, get all dolled up, tell their stories and we bond. We hang out, share jokes and advice, and we usually shed a tear or two.
I am a teacher. I teach my clients to reform the way they view beauty, which changes the way they see themselves. I remind them that nobody will EVER critique them as much as they will. They see every wrinkle, bulge, stretch mark, and blemish on their body. You know what I and their S/O sees? A F****** HOTTIE!!! We see a bangin’ body, a sincere smile, and an aura of confidence, and by the time we get through the first couple of shots, MY GIRLS SEE IT TOO. It’s the most amazing thing. I also teach women that it is absolutely okay to own their own sexuality!!! It’s not wrong or self-centered. It’s NECESSARY!! Flaunt it, babe!
I am a goofball. I make sure my ladies feel comfortable around me. No one wants some broad barking orders at them while they pose in underwear. I mean…unless you’re into that…Just kidding!! I SHOW you exactly how I want you to pose and make sure you’re having a blast while doing it. I get along with everyone, and by the end of our session, you’ll feel like you’ve just been hanging out with a friend. If you’re considering booking a boudie session with me (which you ABSOLUTELY SHOULD), this is your heads-up: There will likely be a mini dance break at some point.
I am insecure. I have struggled with my own body image, just like everyone else. You know what’s funny to me? When we’re asked what we like about ourselves, we always talk about our personality, right? “I am a creative problem-solver. I’m witty and funny. I am caring and sincere,” da da da da da. When we’re asked what we don’t like about ourselves, IT’S ALWAYS THE PHYSICAL STUFF!!! “I have glasses, I’m not skinny, I don’t like my skin, my hair has a mind of it’s own, I have a scar from back surgery,” etc. BUT (get ready, because I’m about to blow your mind) YOU CAN TRAIN YOURSELF TO THINK DIFFERENTLY. I freaking LOVE my little almost-dimple on my left cheek and I really like my nose because it’s unique. My collar bone is defined. I have pretty, strong nails, and I have runner’s legs. I could have chosen to let all of my insecurities control my self-worth, and believe me, I did for a long time. Instead, I focus on my strengths and what I like about myself. I absolutely love teaching others learn how to truly love themselves. We don’t have to be perfect, we just gotta work with what we have!
I am a believer. I believe that society is changing. Slower than a snail trudging through peanut butter…but surely. You don’t have to be a skinny, tall, blonde woman to be considered “beautiful” anymore. We, as a society, have begun to acknowledge that beauty comes in ALL shapes, sizes, colors, cultures, genders, ages and abilities. I also believe that if everyone had more confidence in themselves, the world would be a better place. Imagine a world where people celebrated differences and knew without a shadow of a doubt that they’re a BADASS. That’s what fuels my passion.
So, no. I’m not a pornographer. I’m just a woman with a passion, a camera, and so much damn love to give, that I just had to do something about it. I am 100% actively changing my community by empowering women. And it’s so easy; I just make them believe in what’s already there. So, if you’re thinking of booking a boudoir shoot, DO IT NOW!!! Quick! Before you let those terrible thoughts in and let nerves prevent you from experiencing something truly amazing. I promise you won’t regret it.
Author – Anna Mae of Anna Mae Photography Welcome!